He has lost interest in sex?

Time to move on......

[wonders if she realizes how many "new" friends she just made.....]

A sexless relationship will could easily lead to a brake up. First the obvious. If he's not cheating you have a better chance to work this out. If he is over 30 testosterone supplements will increase his sex drive help. The real question is why does he prefer porn when he does get horny over a woman and how often does he watch it. Porn could easily become addictive. If this is the case he needs your support more than he knows. He may now know or may not want to tell you want made him turn to porn as his method of choice for sexual gratification. If he would you could attack the issue at the root. I could speculate a list of what may have caused him to turn to porn. You will only need to know that list if this doesn't work. Try watching porn with him. Better yet let him watch it with you. This way your not invading his personal space. Your inviting him in to yours. This way he won't be able to masturbate if you take matters into your own hands so to speak and put your money where your mouth is if you know what I mean ;) If your not kinky enough to do this; that could be the problem. I understand everyone draws the line some where. I just hope your both still sexually compatible. If all else falls you need to tell him that you need him and can't truly be happy in a sexless or sex deprived relationship. Tell him you need him to search his heart a honestly tell you why he's not into you sexually like he use to be. Let him sleep on it. Give him time to do some soul searching. Ask he if he wants to see you happy. Tell him if he loves you... SHOW IT!

I think he has answered the question for you when he said he sees you as cute rather than sexy. One of my ex boyfriends was an attractive guy, and I liked him but there was no sexual chemistry there for me. I'd avoid sleeping with him at all costs. Not because I didn't think he was good looking, I did, but not in a 'You're so sexy' kind of way.

I broke up with him in the end because it was wrong to be in a relationship when I had no desire to sleep with him. He obviously has a sex drive because he's masturbating, but he doesn't have one when it comes to being physical with you. Sounds harsh, but I think that's the only answer!

End it and find someone you have a real spark with :)

The need to have sex is very variable in both males and females.

It's extremely difficult to understand, never mind to try to explain to someone via such a medium as this. I know that you are not married, but...

Let me tell you where you might seek out further information about others who have the problem that you are describing, and then, if you are willing to read on, I'll tell you how it was explained to me.

I only became aware of groups on the internet who share their frustrations with limited sex with their partners via an article in our National newspaper. I was flabbergasted that such a topic would be covered in The Globe and Mail, but it showed me a whole new world of pain and frustration shared by many.

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/...

You'll discover a huge number of similar stories if you were to google "sexless marriage". One such site, The Experience Project, has thousands of stories.

The only explanation that made sense to me was given by a contributor on The Experience Project. I do not even remember the gender of the teller of the explanation. But the details have stuck with me. (I'll pretend that the teller was a female.)

My boyfriend likes sex. At first it was good and frequent, then it became less so. Now, it's so seldom that we have sex that it is ridiculous. I know that he still enjoys sex when we have it. But the effort that it takes for him to become aroused is exhausting for him. Sex for him is like a sleigh ride down a steep hill - extremely exciting and exhilarating. Very fulfilling. But, it's the long walk up the steep hill that he cannot abide. It's as though the effort to get to the top of the hill is just not worth the oh-so-brief pleasure, no matter how great is the pleasure, of the short ride down. So, he just doesn't even want to start the long, tedious walk up the hill.

Her story helped me understand.

I sincerely hope that you are not in a "sexless" relationship. It is extremely difficult!

Really a complicated issue kary,

Its been two years. . Oh! Then we have to react quickly, in my point of perspective you tried everything at your best.

The only way is he has to be frank.

Nowadays sexual dysfunction may be cured easily. .

Try to take him for some picnic, go to the place he likes to spend.

No works, no office tension, nothing should be there.

You and him, spend time and create the mood.

If he still refuse or unable to satisfy you.

Then you should take him to sexologist

you want the real answer? leave him, the relationship is dead