How to put on wedding invitations about monetary gift?

My daughter put a paper in with the invitation to contact her sister for gift ideas. Sis told everyone money. Worked

No. You should never include anything regarding gifts (monetary or otherwise) on an invitation. This is rude and tacky. You're inviting these people to spend a special day with you, not to receive gifts! I hope you're able to change this before sending your invitations out. And yes, it does "matter these days"! People will still be quite offended. I've received two invitations from friends (I'm in my 20s) that included mention of gifts and although I was living outside the country and unable to attend the weddings, I still didn't send a gift (which I usually do). It's quite offensive.

You can't do any such thing without looking tacky.

Gifts are not mandatory. You cannot dictate what someone should give you as they don't have to give you anything at all.

Supposedly, their presence at your wedding as a guest is gift enough.

If you get gifts and can't take them on a plane with you - you can ship them. At your expense.

A lot of people will realize your situation and give money anyway.

And in this day and age with people living together and putting a house together prior to the marriage - people realize that you have what you need.

I know I do when invited to a wedding. I don't bother with the pleasure of buying and wrapping a gift anymore. Stop somewhere and get a gift card - as most older guests will know this is what the couple wants anyway. Kind of a shame that guests have been deprived of this little pleasure of shopping and wrapping. But that's the way it is anymore.

The traditional purpose of gifts was to help the couple get started - but that has changed.

You will come off as tacky and mercenary by mentioning that you prefer money.

You need to keep in mind that people are not obligated to give gifts at all - much less hand you the price of a gift in the form of $20 bills.

You send your invitations - and leave it up to the guests to do what they wish about giving or not giving. That would be the best etiquette. And will be the best way to not be remembered for the bride who asked for cash.

TACKY! BAD! AWFUL! LOW-CLASS!

OK so let's examine exactly why this is NOT a good idea.

First. gifts of any kind are not to be expected. That's because your guests are invited because you want them to share in an important moment in your lives together. Demanding tribute either in goods or cash is no way to treat honored guests.

Moreover, guests are not expected to "cover their plates." That's because no one held a gun to your head and said "Hire Pierre L'Expensive or else!" So, the costs for your wedding fall on your shoulders - completely - from the engagement ring to the honeymoon.

Now, people will want to gift the couple out of respect; but telling people what to give is really rude and awful.

Moreover, you do not "do monetary gifts." Again, you are demanding tribute - not good.

OK so what you do about gifts is: Nothing. Nothing at all. Your friends know you don't need household stuff. After all, these people know you - and your household, don't they?

Bottom line - it's really gross to ask for anything - anything at all - as a gift for your wedding.

Um, you can't. Mentioning money on your invitations is beyond tacky. The only thing worse is those "honeymoon registries" where you ask people to donate to your honeymoon as their wedding gift.

BTW, if *I* received a wedding invitation that said they wanted money in lieu of gifts, I wouldn't give them a dime. I would make a donation to a local charity instead and inform them of such in a nice card.

There is no way to do this and not look tacky or rude. If you, in anyway, communicate to your guests that you want cash instead of gifts, you actually risk getting less than if you just keep your mouth shut. Like me, many of your guests would be insulted and give you less than they planned or nothing at all.

Don't think about what you will be getting, just plan your wedding. Then be gracious and thankful for what you do receive.

I agree with another poster. When people ask me for money, I always limit how much I give. I was in the wedding where the bride hounded me for a gift, so I spent $20. In an upcoming wedding I'm in, I'll be spending $100. My friend knowing my financial situation (grad student) asked me not to get them anything. Perversely, I wanted to buy her something nicer.

Don't register and people will get the hint. Even if they don't, more likely than not they will include gift receipts with their presents and you can exchange it for cash.

Very tacky!

Lots of people are greatly offended by this and will not attend a wedding when this breach of etiquette occurs.

If anyone asks you where you are registered, at that point you can say, we are not registered but we are having a wishing well or money tree at the wedding.

just dont say anything about gifts at all and people will most likely give you money anyway.

if you have website then put your address on their and include it with the invites. most people send gifts to the couple before the actual wedding date and most people would use the address you have provided. this way if someone wishes to send you an item rather than money they have a place to send it too.

You don't put something like that on an invitation. It's incredibly rude and very tacky. Just accept the gifts that you get and be happy.

There is no polite or tactful way to mention gifts of any kind in an invitation. The best you can do is not register anywhere and if anyone directly asks just say that you have all you need already and all you want is for them to come and enjoy your special day.