About getting married but I lost my trust on him?

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Hi I have been with my bf 2 years and engaged for 1. We live together. 
We are happy the most of the time, but lately like 2 months ago, I have noticing something estrange in his behavior. Little more distant and tired every night. We haven't had sex like in a month almost and I have observed he is on his cell texting more than usual. Instead asking him who he is texting (because he gets mad) I checked his email it was killing me all that and I asked him what's going on but he answers the same, it's nothing. 
Well I checked his iPod instead his cell since he was using it more and I found an email from an ex saying she will be in town and wants to meet with him and she gave her cell# and asking him to text her during day time and that she's looking forward to it. 
She replied that email from a previous one that my boyfriend sent her sending kisses and asking her how she was. What am I suppose to think? I feel so bad really I didn't even know they were in touch :( so I confronted him asking questions about all that and first, he claims he didn't send that "kisses" email when his email appears as sender what a bad lie. Then he was blaming me on doing that to test him, what? Is he out of his mind?? Why would I do that when I didn't even know they were in touch? Absurd! Then I asked him if she knows he is engaged and he responded "I don't know" that doesn't help me to trust him then. We r planning on getting married in 5 months from now and it's not the first email from her I have seen. A year ago right after we got engaged I saw another one where she asked if he was in a relationship and first he voided the question but she asked again and he said yes but he sworn to her he was not married. She asked him if he will marry me and he said he didn't know when we had a date already. 
So that is my problem now. What should I think about all this? Should I trust him or cancel the wedding? He really is not helping me to trusting him since he doesn't answer clear anything just saying he doesn't know or he doesn't remember.

Tina · Accepted Answer

I think you should put your marriage on hold until your fiance comes clean with you. If you get married and you don't trust him then the marriage won't work. You boyfriend's behaviour is a red flag and you need to get to the bottom of whatever is going on with him. If he's distant, tired and is not having sex with you and texting a lot then if he's not cheating, he's about to. Your fiance has not been honest with you and you know it. It's not hard to see that your fiance is a bit confused about his feelings for his ex. You should not want to rush in marrying this guy because he will hurt you.

? · Answer

Your husband is lacking anything within the marriage that makes him prone or search different females. You have got to uncover out what that's. Are you ignoring him alot due to the fact of your education? Are you now not constructing up his ego (which the opposite females could also be doing)? Have you misplaced curiosity on your look? Having a child due to the fact he does not have youngsters is NOT a well ample rationale to have a youngster. You do not say how lengthy you will have been married and if it is a surprising factor he's doing. But it is sounds such as you have got to positioned a few 'spice' again into the wedding. It he quite loves you, he does not want an additional girl. So 'be all of the girl you'll be able to be'. Also should you suppose relaxed, take a seat down and speak to him. Tell him you recognize approximately the opposite females, and what's it that's making him stray. And ask what you'll be able to do to maintain him pleased at house. And for my part I might inform him that a child isn't an alternative so long as he's dishonest on you.

Dowlinggram · Answer

Cut your losses and run!! Unless you want to put up with this for the rest of your life.Any guy that cheats on you before marriage will do much more of it after you are married. There is no way he can make you trust him so don't look for it. Even if he explained everything away you would still have doubts and that doesn't bode well for your future life together

mgrace · Answer

yeah, thats definately a concern. and it would be for him if the tables were turned. i honestly woulnt go forth with the. i would consider just postponing it to an unknown date but only if you with a question love him completely. marriage is a big thing. so many take it lightly these days since divorce is so easy. so my advice is dont marry him. atleast not anytime soon unless he tells you the truth and completley changes. if you have the least bit of doubt in his trust, just wait. 

i really wish you good luck with this. prayer always helps

匿名 · Answer

man gets bored with the same woman easily
believe me if you're not marry him asap he will vanish or look for a reason to kick your butt

About getting married but I lost my trust on him?

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