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dizzkat 發問於 HealthMental Health · 1 十年前

How to best help a compulsive Hoarder?

I am currently donating time to a lovely lady that has had some severe health issues but has had issues with hoarding. Her home is cluttered to the point she cannot use the rooms as they should be used. We have made good progress but it is so slow going.....and I am afraid she will slip back into the behaviour again as soon as we free up space.

She refuses therapy, and says she is committed to getting rid of stuff so she will be fine....but this is the 3rd time in her life she has reached this point. I don't want to make this worse or say the wrong thing so need advice on how best to help. She is in charge of what we keep, what is donated and what she wants to try to sell. We have a time constraint though because winter is coming and her heat elements are blocked. And she is not working on this at all on her own, only when myself and her caregiver are present which is 4 hours once a week.

Any advice is appreciated.

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  • 1 十年前
    最愛解答

    Best advice is to separate yourself emotionally from it. By that I don't mean give up on her, or care for her any less, just realize the limits of what you can do and don't blame yourself when you have done all you can do. This is her disorder and you cannot fix it, and it doesn't sound like she will deal with it effectively either. Nonetheless, we all have our burdens to bear, and this one apparently is one of hers so blame is pretty pointless too.

    Family members can often help with things like this, but if they have dealt with it before, everyone's feelings are likely to be raw. Still it may help, if your person is advancing in age, for them to tell her that they don't really want to be handed this mess after she is gone. That sounds so horrible, and indeed may have multiple meanings...they may be frustrated, angry, and do not have time or energy to deal with this again, but mostly the intended tone of this talk is so she knows that losing her will be difficult enough without having to face all the mess, and that they don't want to remember her that way. I have been in this position and I can tell you that after a loved one is gone it is hard to go through their stuff under the best of circumstances. It only gets harder in a hoarding situation because it is difficult emotionally, physically, and mentally...and most relatives don't understand the problem, so it is doubly painful to feel that it is all so unnecessary.

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    4 年前

    I actual could no longer say what. i think of at situations that my husband is a hoarder yet I throw away issues almost as quickly as he collects them. i comprehend why he's the way he's yet uncertain approximately different peoples hoarding. My husband became into raised submit- WW11 in communist Hungary the place as a youthful boy he actual had to sleep in an identical room along with his total relatives, 5 people living in a studio apt. He from time to time went to his grandmother flat in an identical construction and could sleep in mattress along with her if he needed some extra area. He discovered to no longer waste something because it ought to are available reachable sometime. He collects each and every thing from nevertheless good brake pads from the junkyard to previous tires that even have good tread on them.i could desire to admit, his hoarding as are available reachable some situations while we wanted to restoration some thing quickly and inexpensive. we are m oving quickly and he's cleansing out his storage, that's a sparkling begining for him. the place we are moving to is a small flat foreign places so there will be limited area for his hoarding besides the fact that while his mom died, he took maximum of her previous crap to our flat by way of fact it became into nevertheless useful. i will make him get rid of the junk by way of fact I dout if i would be desiring such products as a meat grinder from the 1950's or a house made table that became into the effects of an previous sweing device table. that isn't any longer effortless living with a compulsive man or woman yet in his case, the products often do have a use the venture is storing all of it till the day you like them.

  • 1 十年前

    MATCHES!!!!!LOL

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