i think i'm losing my boyfriend...........?

ok a lot of these people are flat out wrong.... people can and do change for one thing and the second is that not everyone does deserve a second chance because trust me a lot of them don't. the guy has to have a reason to change and you forgiving him will tell him that you are there to stay and that the past is the past, which is a very good reason for change. I have had this experience it can work out i am still with my guy that i went thru it with and i too went to yahoo answers for advise but if you truly do love him go for it take the risk to stay and no matter how much it bothers you ignore it dont say it out loud ever Again and in time you will almost forget all about it. (till you go on yahoo and someone else has this problem and you can honestly help them out) i hope this helps you and always follow your heart.

Agreed. Nobody is perfect. HOWEVER. There are certain things you have to ask yourself, "Am I willing to live with this for the rest of my life?" If at any point you think, I shouldn't have to put up with this. You don't. If you're throwing things from the past in his face, you haven't forgiven him.

And I have found, if you've cheated on someone once....you'll do it again.

well im gonna give u da best advice i can, cuz i went threw da same thing. u should try 2 4get what happen(if he only did it once)cuz every 1 deserve a sec chance. i know its hard 2 4 get. u cant 4 give if u cant 4 get. if he loves u as much as u say he do then its worth da sec chance. cuz u never know what would happen. try 2 make it work n try 2 4 get what happen n i know dats very hard 2 do...cuz u cant get over of something like dat. but yea try 2 make it work. n ur not stupid 4 doing what u did. like i said everyone deserve a sec chance. i hope my advice was good enough 4 u....n u take care hun.

If you are still throwing his indiscretions in his face during arguments, then you haven't forgiven him. What you did do was make a commitment to working on the relationship. A stint at a couple's counselor's office will do wonders for the both of you.

I hate to pop your bubble, but hear me out.

I met this guy on a trip with a group of other kids, and we clicked instantly. I thought we were in love. He said we were, he gave me my first kiss, my first everything. We bonded over those three weeks and went on to handle a long distance relationship. Kinda romantic - until the guy cheats on you with your friend from the trip. I forgave hime, then he did it again and left me. I took him back when he came groveling, then three days later, he "loved" another girl. This happened twice more.

I dated another guy after him. He cheated on me, hit me, and got into drugs. When I threated to leave him, he said he loved me enough to change. I was hanging out in his room, trying to find my flip flops, and I found a bag of weed under his bed with a dirty magazine. I left him, and he is still a cheater and a liar.

I put myself through these relationships over and over, because I felt loved and I didnt want to lose that feeling. Then I realized, as cliche as it was, it wasnt love. I was being used and lied to.

I dont want to be a pessimist, but people dont just change. They dont have epiphanies overnight and suddenly drop their bad qualities. If someone cheats on you, trust me - dump them. Dont give them a second chance. It'll hurt. Really bad. You'll feel horrible, and wrong, and miserable at first. I know I did when I finally did it. But when you look back on it a month, a year, or however later, you will be glad you did. Because there's always something better. There's a guy who will hold doors open for you instead of letting it fall after he walks through. There will be a guy who cooks for you instead of asking "What's for dinner". There will be a guy who says "I love you" - and means it.

Dont settle. I know it feels like love, and I know its easier said than done, but take it from someone who was asking herself the same question before: leave the guy. There's someone out there who will love you for REAL. :)

tell him you're willing to let go if he's willing to be more trustworthy.