Question for people over age 20 - importance of sex in a relationship?

I don't think great sex is that rare if you have great communication and a mutual desire to please the other person....... Great sex and great communication are must haves in my relationships, one without the other just feels like settling, don't do that.

Janelle, great sex isn't everything. Oh it's cool, but it isn't everything. Bigger and better than sex is a mutual respect, for each other. Mutual likes and dislike. A gentle touch and concern when needed. In other words real true love is most important before awesome sex is achieved. Don't judge the man by how he gets you to feel like orgasmic, judge him by how he makes you feel like a woman. Great sex is not rare, but don't expect it all the time, there are too many factors that equate to great sex. Love is number one. Where there is love, where there is compatibility, where there is concern and friendship, where there is good communication, you will find great sex. Remember great sex isn't everything, all these other things or feelings must accompany the act itself.

Don't ever settle. J doesn't sound like a winner at all..except in the bedroom. That being said, be friends-with-benefits with him, all the while still going out there and looking for the perfect guy that check boxes left to right on you checklist---the checklist that has "Awesome mind-blowing love-making" on the top 3. Good Luck! Don't ever settle! He's out there, but that doesn't mean you should deprive yourself of amazing sex right now---JUST DON'T FALL FOR J BECAUSE OF THAT!! Stay focused...keep your eye on the prize.

Please don't stay back just for great sex. Wrong move. U haven't been with other guys, so how do you know you wont connect with someone the same way? A good relatonship is more about what happens outside of the bed...which is where you will be spending the majority of your life anyway. See the big picture.

I think it truly depends on the two people involved in each relationship. I know in my case I absolutely love sex and it's an intregal part of how I take care of her, but for others it could be totally different. There was a time where I dated a beautiful, intelligent girl for two years. She was waiting for marriage and we never had sex. I was perfectly fine with that despite me believing it's very important. So I think it depends on the people involved.

Sounds like J makes a great f-buddy but not a good boyfriend...One of the things that makes sex amazing is good chemistry...Thats what you seem to have a lot of with J...I wouldnt worry about have good sex again..There are many capable men out there...You may have to speek up and let them know what you like...

one needs practice and exerience for grt sex and to want to learn and listen to ones partner

will u find love and grt sex yes but you have to look and not go back to what you know caus the sex is grt and ur life sux

trust me you can hav both but that up to you let go of ur past sounds like u where the best thing tat happened to him and ur just stuck on the sex

wake up caus one day after marriage and kids

sex really does ake a back seat when there young

Oh don't you worry there is plenty of guys out there, and good sex isn't that hard to find, just find a good guy that has all the qualities your looking in a guy and good sex will come with it. sometimes you might have to communicate with him what you like and don't like thou. just know what you want first then go and get it.

Sex is fun

You need good sex. and it is very rare. why don't you just play video games with him. I bet you'll have fun!!!!!