Can a relationship be saved if the guy is always sarcastic and critical during arguments?

i feel the same way in my relationship sometimes. i try to avoid blame and use "I" statements also, but my bf makes me feels as though my feelings don't matter and are completely discounted while he justifys himself.... but this is also only during arguments... after the arguments, he apologizes and things go back to amazing and perfect. i don't get it either..... just wanted to let you know you are not alone, and it can work

it can be saved, but he has to be willing to learn and change. You telling him what to do or complaining about it will not make him want to do it. You need to talk to him and explain the problem you're having with it and you're going to have to be open to hearing out the problems he's having with you. You have to both committ to solving them. It would really help out if he could find someone who is in a really good relationship that knows how to make one work that your bf trusts. It's a lot easier coming from a third party guy than it woudl be from a girl or you.

The bottom line is he will not change if he's not willing to. If that's the case, then the only way you can save your relationship is if you concede to just deal with it for the rest of your relationship.

Arguments are part of a healthy relationship. If your arguments don't last long anyway, than I think there is little reason to worry. Especially so if you are able to put up with his sarcastic tone and just let it go. In the end, however, only the 2 of you can decide for yourselves if this relationship can work.

Don't start it out by saying you need to work on your communication skills. You have to take the risk of him getting mad at you. I had the same problem, only the problem wasn't that he was sarcastic it was that he was tempermental. I was sick of it and told him that what he said during our arguments was uncalled for and hurtful. He got mad, but later he told me that it made him think about it. Now he tries very hard to keep in check when he is in an argument. GOOD LUCK!!!

issues buried alive never die. they grow.if you are not married please get some counseling or something. I did not have a good day with men at all today. so may you have better luck than i .By the end of my day i compared talking to men who feel they are men by belittling women is just as rewarding as kissing a skunks behind.

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unresolved issues that keep building up,cannot be a good thing.and beside that its not fair to you , if you try and he dont.to me , a relationship wont work without, TRUST and COMMUNICATION and thers more but if you dont have either of theseit cant work

I don't think it can work out. It sounds as if he thinks you dumb. He clearly doesn't respect you. If you continue with him. There is a very slim chance of he changing his ways.

yea , tell him to read "see you at the top" and tell him he could be laughing by himself if he cannot work on the relationship...... because they need both people to work together ...not just one for it to work

If you can't communicate with him, dump him.