Break up or get married?

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So I ve been with my gf for 11 years. Love her a ton and she s a great girl. Loyal, loving, cooks, cleans and very pretty. After 11 years I am bored. She doesn t have good convo or communication skills, so she s boring to be around. She also has no motivation in life. I feel like I have to push her to set even the smallest goals for herself. Past couple years have been rough, and I ve expressed my feeling about wanting to take the next step but asked her to do some self reflecting and maybe try to read more or work on her communication skills. But to no avail. I m sinking into depression and I m not sure if it s something wrong with me but I want my partner to be a positive influence on the relationship and make me a better person which I feel like is not the case.  I love her and don t want to throw away 11 years but I want to be happy. Is it wrong to ask her to work on self improvement and strive to be a better person and in turn help our relationship? Oh,and by the way. I bought an engagement ring over a year ago. It s been sitting in my gun safe. Help.

匿名 · Accepted Answer

Look man, she's hot, she cooks and cleans, and gives you loving, I mean, you know, that's not easy to find. Maybe take her to see an interesting movie, or find something interesting to watch together, or something that makes you talk about your feelings, go to therapy, couples counseling, or something. I mean, maybe just spice things up in bed. You can't get everything you want.

Bertsta · Answer

Unlike men, who improve with age like a fine wine, a woman doe not. What you start out with is the best you gonna get. The longer you are with a woman, the more comfortable she gets with you, and when a woman gets comfortable, she becomes lazy. A woman's job is to make you feel like a god. if she's not doing that.. walk.

匿名 · Answer

It's been 11 years. You didn't mention the ages of you and her, but if it's been 11 years and you're still hesitant about marrying her, then you need to leave her. It should not take nearly this long for you to decide if she's worth spending your life with or not.

? · Answer

Break up. Don't waste another minute of your life or hers. Keep the ring for someone you really want to spend every day with. You cannot change anyone --only yourself. Shame it took you so long to realize this is not right. 11 years wasted.

Break up or get married?

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