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If you call your ex-husband but you don't have kids; can you tell me why?
My husband was married once and his ex-wife still calls. They don't have kids. This is really a minor concern, and it doesn't bother me much, but I'm curious as to reasons why she does it. Is it just loneliness?
So, if you do this, why do you do it?
FWIW, my husband doesn't call her. She calls to tell him about things going on in her life, like her moving or her getting fired or her new job search.
Can you tell me why you do this, if you do? I'm just curious.
Thanks!
12 個解答
- .Lv 76 年前最愛解答
No, I did not do it. When our marriage was over, it was over. He contacted me once, when one of our dogs died, but after that I never heard from him again nor did I care to.
You should ask your husband why she continues to call him. Some couples are able to maintain friendships after a divorce, and maybe she is just comfortable talking to him and getting input, because they were once so close. He already knows her and her background, better than most people in her life I imagine, so has a unique perspective with regard to her life and her problems or questions.
Some personality types just scroll through their phone and call people. There is not much thought to boundaries and/or social cues and self awareness. Perhaps she is bi-polar (and I mean this quite nicely). Someone with bi-polar disorder will talk a lot and 'think aloud', needing constant stimulation and conversation. I'm not insinuating she is, just that she may be chatty. It seems harmless but I can see where you're coming from about her not realizing it's out of the ordinary LOL. He might have to politely say, " (Insert name), you're a great person and I wish you the best in everything, really I do because you deserve it. I have just never talked to an ex after we broke up and this is somewhat awkward. You know when people break up they usually cut ties and in our case, it's not that we're bad people but our friendship and relationship is over and we really don't have much to talk about that I can't talk about with my wife. It's odd for us to continue talking like this so I'm going to let you go now and hope you find someone else to share things with." Her calling so comfortably tells me that she doesn't realize it's wrong, for whatever reason. After all this time, she will feel ashamed and stupid and possibly the hurt of the divorce will all come up for her again. Letting her down gently and wishing her well is the most gentlemanly thing he can do. Good luck!
- 5 年前
Probably because he wants to talk to her. Nice guy or not, no one talks to someone over and over unless they have to or want to. And since he doesn't have to, and could just use the excuse "Can't talk now I'm at work." but doesn't use that excuse, it seems like he talks to her because he wants to. It makes more sense that he doesn't want to piss you off than "he doesn't want to hurt her feelings." So like I said, he probably wants to talk to her. Which makes sense, since his current wife is a drag. I'm not surprised to see several people on here saying the same things and insulting you because you probably said some bitchy stuff to them online too. I mean what are the odds that several people think you're the problem?!
- 匿名6 年前
I do not know why is SHE doing this, maybe she wants him back and misses him. but why is HE doing this? why is HE answering her calls? my husband's ex wife tried to call him sometimes, especially after consuming alcohol obviously (happened on Friday or Saturday evenings) - he just DIDN'T ANSWER HIS PHONE. ever. after calling and sending texts and getting zero responses she stopped. so by answering her calls and chatting with her he is encouraging her to continue. so the best option for u would be to ask HIM , why is HE still communicating with her?
- 6 年前
Maybe she feels alone and needs somebody who she can share with. She thinks of your husband as somebody who knows her (or at least knew her) well. It is a good sign- from the part of your husband- that he does not call her. I think you do not need to worry.
- 6 年前
Maybe you should print this out and stick it in a drawer so one day you can pull it out and laugh at how naive you are being
He is allowed to be friends with her, let the man live a little.
- PatriciaLv 76 年前
Maybe she still feels some sort of friend-connection with him and depends on him for his support and maybe even advice? Not sure. You can ask your husband why she calls him.
- 6 年前
Clearly he likes her more than he likes you. Maybe you should ask him these questions instead of a group of strangers on the internet. It's apparent that you're only looking for people to back you up so you can shove it in his face. Be an adult and deal with your marriage yourself.
- Ace ShortyLv 75 年前
I wonder who left whom in this marriage? If he left her I would think she still cares for him, If she left him I would think she thinks she screwed up. Regardless I think she still has feelings for him. I hope you have a good sex life with him it appears to me that he has someone who would be willing to get it on with him again.