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I have dreadlocks and am afraid of the people at school?
I'm a white girl and proud of my loud, outstanding hair. I love the beads, I love the freedom, and most of all I love the look, but I hate the fact that before I got them and still to this day, I am shy. One reason I got dreadlocks was to be comfortable with who I am by immersing myself in the stereotypes and the strange looks and anything else a human being can conjure up. But now, this all scares the sh*t out of me and I choking on air just thinking about it. I get really defensive about my hair and any rude comment I hear makes me cringe and sometimes I lash out because of it. I just don't know how to handle this change. I don't know how to defend myself wither or how to tell who is joking and who is being flat out mean. I don't know how to accept what people have to say. I feel like people should respect me enough to understand this self-expression but I also know that some people have never actually expressed themselves and that most just seem like a ruthless pack of wolves waiting for a snack. I'm a junior also if that makes a difference. I just need a little pep talk and maybe stories of how other people have tried to express themselves but have been shunned for it or of anytime someone has broken out of their comfort zone. Thanks, I'm sorry for the ranting and how long this is. : )
Also, my dreads, being as new as they are still don't look very normal. they are looping and I'm fixing that and most of them are loose. This also makes me feel like other dreadheads may look down on mine.
4 個解答
- 匿名7 年前最愛解答
To face many of the challenges of life, you have to have the courage of your convictions. That means standing up for what you believe in, whether they be vaues and principles you choose in life, or the way you choose to express yourself. Sometimes we might bite off more than we can chew, or maybe do something before we have enough self confidence.
The scenario you paint is indeed scary, but only because people tend to rebel and fear things that are unusual or different. Much of that stems from the complexity of human behaviour, but also from individual ignorance and selfishness.
I can see your motives and to me, they are positive in getting you out of your comfort zone. Maybe you have gone too far too soon and certainly your shyness is going to throw you in the deep end before you can swim. But shyness is all about self esteem and the fear of what others might think of you. If you think about that, it's a bit contradictory to the hairstyle you have chosen.
I say be proud of your hair and the way you express your personality. laugh at yourself when it is appropriate and laugh with others if they mock you. They'll only be trying to get at you and if it's like water off a ducks back, they'll get bored and move on to someone weaker and more vulnerable. Maybe there are times when you have to justify yourself and stand your corner, but you can do that in a number of ways and sometimes it's your own responses and behaviour that can change the perception of others.
- 匿名7 年前
Be yourself. Don't listen to the other people. Just ignore the haters bro. If they make fun of you or say a rude comment, then just say "This is what I like and I'm gonna do what I want with my hair. You can think whatever you want. idgaf."
- 7 年前
Thank you all for this confidence. I felt amazing after these answers. At school today I got strange looks, but I really didn't care as much as I thought I would. What does it matter?
