help, 10 points for best answer, what's more important?

You have quite a few cross hairs in your situation don't you? The hardest part in your situation is literally your religion and nationality. I have a friend who is Muslim and she had a hard time as well growing up with her "controlling yet loving parents" as she would say. You are becoming a young adult and the best way to communicate normally would be to sit down and talk to your mom with an agreement of what would make you both comfortable with the changes into becoming a young adult. But without being able to have a discussion, where there is unreasonable yelling and hurt, the best way for you to attack this would be to prove yourself. Show her that you don't need to be asked to do chores, just do them on your own. Make mature decisions on what you wear, what you say and who you hang around with at school. I think with your nationality and religion and their complete devotion to the two, you are going to be stuck with what they want until you are a legal adult. Once you are of age to move out, you definitely need to make yourself happy. You will regret it later in life if you do not follow your dreams but make sure it is your future you are focusing on and not just drinking because you are going to want your parents to see how well you do in society and in the future and to come around to letting you be your own person and being proud of you. You are your own person and if you set your mind to it, and do well, maybe they will see the strong child that they helped mold into greatness. Good luck!

You cannot live for your mother. You only have one life and it's best to not squander it on the chance that someone may be upset with your decisions. Someone will all will disagree and find fault, you have to rise above and be true to you.

You only live once and life is short. Never let anyone hold you back from what you want, who you want or where you want to go!