Should I call child services?

Talk to your fiancé about getting a social worker to visit them. It doesn't sound like a good atmosphere for those kids to be growing up in and I think you're right for wanting to help them. My wife's cousin had some similar problems with his ex-wife and the way she treated their children (among other issues with her). She was letting them watch porn at her home, and they were acting it out at school. He got a call from their school, and he ended up getting full custody of their kids while she is only allowed supervised visits.

I do not see any abuse going on here, however I do see a crime. It is illegal for anyone under 18, in some places 21, to watch porn... I mean I'm sure people sneak and do it but it's illegal. Besides what enjoyment would ANYONE get out of OTHER people doing the do? But no you can't call child services because the mother is a biotch. If I were you I would stay out of it. You could stir up huge drama for that whole family, including you & your fiance. But if you INSIST they are being abused or neglected, talk it over with your fiance before you do anything! After all it is his family, his business, and if you really love him you wouldn't want to mess up ANYTHING! Hopefully you'll work everything out. If they go to foster care they can be abused, neglected, raped, and much more! They are better off where they are at right now! Now if you and your fiance got legal custody, that'd be something different. But I would just leave it alone.

If you call child services -- and if they were to for some reason or another take the children away. You can rest assured the children will be far more worse off in foster care and what not. Where on earth did you get the idea that it'd be a good idea to request a government agency to violate the home and rights of an American family and perhaps even steal someones children, or you could say strip innocent children from their parents and home? CPS has come to believe they are above the law and the Constitution, that they do not need a search warrant to come into your home, label you as a child abuser for any reason and make you a criminal based upon their opinion alone, take your children away in a paddy wagon, and put your kids into foster homes pending a court hearing where CPS will try their best to win and permanently take custody of your kids. If CPS loses, they will continue to fight you, slandering your family and listing you as a child abuser in government databases. Please don't perpetuate or support government initiatives that aim to control our lives and raise our children with the power to impose it's will by it's own discretion in our communities and lives abroad.

I could rattle on forever in many directions why you shouldn't call CPS for something like this.

Instead I will just clarify the one and only thing that should EVER warrant the intervention of CPS:

You have knowledge or strong evidence that the child is subjected to abuse. What is abuse?

1: Any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation; or

2: An act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm.

If it's a concern that is truly weighing on you, why don't you try and talk about your concerns with the parents? Also - have you actually seen these things for yourself? Do you realize that your concerns you shared are completely based on hearsay? Consider this hypothetical situation:

Someone is led to believe the very same or worse things concerning YOU, these rumors escalate and deep concern arises from stories taken out of context, exaggerated, or simply untrue. So they then call CPS and report what they've heard which leads to a knock on YOUR door. Then your children are taken even though you have committed no crime, done no wrong, and your innocent of said accusations. Don't believe it could happen? It happens quite often, all they need is "reasonable doubt" and you can lose your kids with not an easy fight for their return.

foster care, I have heard is terrible. you can't go off interfering in people's lives like that. do you know how many people honestly have all sorts of problems , and if all of them who had kids would be put into foster care, above 80% of society surely would be just torn apart. The 14 year old who might have said this, does not realize how much work both parents have been doing for 14 + years, and does not realize the tons of problems that both of them are facing which is enough to mentally cripple almost anyone. four kids, and one more on the way. it is entirely too much for anyone to handle, especially if they have a variety of problems that they have not resolved in their lives. having said that, I present to you the solution to sexual addiction which is a most needed solution for many households. (found in the sources section after my answer) obviously if you choose to reveal this information to them, you cannot do so while mentioning that the husband has a problem, so see if you can use an anonymous email set up, and send it through a library computer, so that it is untraceable to you. this way the info gets to them with out you personally being known.

Yes, I would call child services and see what they say and see if they think action is needed.

If you're worried about what your fiance will say, talk it through with her first.

I hope this helped, good luck :)

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