Single mom's - dating question?

You may not see it just yet but you are lucky to have met someone who is in the same predicament as you are, so you can now look at this whole relationship as a blessing. The kids, sooner or later will have to meet, so why not now (once you both feel you are comfortable in the relationship-longterm). Presently the only thing you both can do to make this work since neither of you have much alone time and your schedules are crashing, is to make your dates around the children. Go out as a 'family'. Take the kids to the zoo, to the park, to the pool, to the beach, picnicing. You both can watch your kids enjoy themselves and at the same time enjoy eachothers company.........now how lucky is that? :)

I'm a single mom with a 5 year old and I went through something similar. Any chance your parents could watch your son for a weekend? What about the dad's parents? Also, when he approaches his ex he shouldn't tell her about you. That shouldn't determine the switching of weekends. If he does, she might immediately say no. Did you tell your ex it was because you wanted to spend time with another guy? First time I needed a weekend for the same thing I said that I had to go to a training seminar for my job for the whole weekend and HAD to switch. It worked out fine. It sucks that your ex wont budge. You two need to find a compromise. Also, try friends! Maybe one of your friends can help. You might not get an entire weekend but you might at least get a night. Good luck.

I would see if he can change his weekend first. Sometimes the ex's will not budge right away, but with some understanding may help. Also with the same weekends, let say if things turn out Dynamitly.... wouldn't the kids wonna play with each other on the same weekends? Well in time but for now, see what his ex says may not be that big of a deal in the end. Good Luck with everything.

Well you should each be willing to give up alittle bit of time with each of your children to be together. If you have your son all the time, except every other weekend and he has his daughter only every other weekend, I think you should be willing to go out with him on the weekends you have your son and he doesn't have his daughter. If you don't have full time custody of your son, then can you meet him occasionally for lunch? I still say you both will have to give up some time with the children if you really want to get to know each other, then when you know its a great relationship, after a while; bring the kids in to it.

well do you have any friends that you can ask to watch your son and instead of paying her cash you can owe her a favor or something. and good for you not subjecting your son to that. if all else fails after you know him a little better when he doesn't have his daughter have him come over to your house for just a little while see how it goes your son can be sleeping or if you really think this guy may work out let them meet. say this is my friend so&so. let it go from there. then maybe if things go good you can have play dates at the park. when you all can be together.they can play you can talk have lunch

Well I think you should be 100% positive of your sexual desire with another woman before you introduce this world to your son, there are a lot of emotions/changes involved on your sons behalf. Do you ever plan on dating a man again and settling down? Do you plan on being with this woman for years on end? Is she a good influence on your son? Would your son approve? If he doesn't approve you will have world war III on your hands, without the proper communication between you two regarding this - it could turn into disaster. Personally I would have a heart to heart with yourself and if your heart strings pull towards this arrangement, the next heart to heart should be with your son. And there ya have it - WONDERFUL advice from the 16 year old's answer right above mine....

Before I married my husband I was the same way. My osn was 2. Can you switch weekends? Can you guys meat at the park and have a play date? How will you know if you want to meat each others kids if you can't really get to know the father right? If he is worth it then find away to work it out.

Looks like both of you may have to suck it up and let each other meet the kids. Just remember how to act when you're around them and they will never know the difference. You can't go through your whole life afraid of your child getting attached to someone if it's going to ruin you're dating life. Sit down and talk to your son and explain to him that you have a new friend. Make sure he knows it's a "friend" and he will probably understand. Good luck.

i am a single mom with a 5 year old what i would do because both are so close in age i would have a play date and not make a big deal out of it just kinda like your going out with friends when it comes to spending time alone thats not an easy one and i wish you the best of luck

Each one of you are going to have to splurge at least once to get a babysitter. you will then have two meetings and will see then if you are even interested in each other. If your not then you dont have to worry about it. if you want to see each other more after that all i can say is where there's a will there's a way. You can have a playdate with the kids, but don't lead on to the kids that you are interested in each other. good luck.