Buttercup

A situation occurred whereby I feel I forgave the person, but do not trust him. I've been told that means I really still haven't forgiven him. How do you feel about foregiveness and trust? Are they synonymous or separate?

I have several people among my family and friends who are bipolar. One of them was diagnosed very recently after threatening me while he was depressed.

I no longer trust him due to his not apologizing afterwords for his behavior, not because of his behavior during depression. His spouse believes that one is exempt from apologizing for behavior when not mentally balanced. After all, she says, the justice system doesn't punish those who break the law when insane.

My rebuttal is that we do punish DUI behavior, and the matter is one of accountability. If I drank, or if I behaved irrationally and hurt someone due to a medical condition, I can't control what I did, but I can control taking responsibility once I'm back to myself. My other loved ones have no problem apologizing once their medications even them out.

What do you think about accountability and apologies under the circumstances I listed above?